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What will we lose?
Posted on March 31, 2020 Leave a Comment
I’ve become somewhat accustomed to loss, as humans I think we often tend to push our losses to the side and not deal with them, but as a caregiver I am constantly dealing with loss. It started with the loss of my Dad in 2013, and since then it has ranged between a drop of […]
Hine
Posted on March 28, 2020 3 Comments
One day you will become the embodiment of atua wāhine.It will be in the surrender that she makes her home in you.One day she will arrive and settle in your soul,early on you will go to war with her;How dare she come into your house!Most days you will not even know she calls you home.She […]
Am I your daughter?
Posted on March 30, 2016 2 Comments
And if she does not remember me, please do not be offended if she does not remember you.
When it hurts, it hurts
Posted on February 15, 2016 Leave a Comment
I am hurting. The pain is radiating from my heart and spreading down to the tips of my fingers and toes. It feels as if my hair aches and my finger nails are digging into me. This pain and grief feels familiar, common but also unfamiliar. I have not bathed in grief for a long […]
A few helpful tips..
Posted on December 15, 2015 1 Comment
This time of year is a hard time for families caring for someone with alzheimers/dementia. Services shut down or go to a skeleton staff, family and friends go away for the holiday season, it is hot, tiring and the days are long. Carers are often exhausted and will look that way. I know this from […]
Today I learnt..
Posted on October 19, 2015 Leave a Comment
I listened today and I learnt about truth for the first time in my 30 years. Isn’t that a funny notion to finally learn the meaning of truth at 30?
Letters to my Mama… Part 2
Posted on September 16, 2015 2 Comments
As hard as it is, sometimes it is harder to be away from you. I miss your connection to me I miss you knowing me when you are with me and that is hard, but when you aren’t with me I just miss you and I don’t know which is harder.
The stuck-ness that is life..
Posted on August 28, 2015 Leave a Comment
I can recognize this, seek help, take meds, make a gazillion cups of tea and still I will be stuck in the stuck-ness that is my life.
The kindness of caring
Posted on July 18, 2015 Leave a Comment
As the days turned to weeks, and weeks to months it became more and more obvious that I would be caring for Mum permanently.
The cost of caring…
Posted on July 4, 2015 Leave a Comment
I write this and think that maybe a lot of people will say, “maybe it is time for full time care.” It’s not. Trust me.
Me, Martha and Alzheimer's 